December 5th, 2011 7:51am - Posted By: Anne Maxwell, LCSW, RPT-S
Over the past several weeks, I've been having so much fun facilitating a workshop on the "10 Keys to Joyful Parenting." These keys are based upon a set of guidelines developed by Gary Douglas, founder of Access Consciousness ™. Gary describes the constraints he was given growing up as including what he refers to as “implants.” He says that implants are points of view that are impelled at us by others, often especially by our parents. He is quick to acknowledge that our parents did the best they could with the information they had available to them at the time. Nonetheless, he says these points of view run our lives, even though they are not ours.
The 1st Key to Joyful Parenting is: Ask, "Would an infinite being truly choose this?" In Conscious Parents Conscious Kids, Dr. Dain Heer wrote a fantastic article asking 'Are You Willing to See Your Kids as Infinite Beings?' that I would like to share with you:
"Are you willing to see your kids as infinite beings? Would you be willing to acknowledge that babies come into this world aware? Kids come into this life with total awareness. Have you ever seen a baby scream at just the right pitch to drive nails between your eyes? How do they know to use that particular pitch every time they want something? They are aware. They know exactly the right pitch to make you run like crazy to pick them up or do what they want.
People say, 'Yes, but they're just babies!' That isn't quite right. They may have baby bodies, but they are also infinite beings with infinite awareness. Children are big beings with little bodies. If we would actually treat them that way and acknowledge the awareness that they have from the youngest age, we could support, facilitate and allow that awareness to show up in their lives.
As an infinite being, is there anything you wouldn't know? No. You know everything. Is there anything you wouldn't be able to receive? No. You are able to receive everything.
Please recognize that infinite beings can be wonderful, kind and generous, but they can also choose to be mean and awful and break everything in your house. Seeing your kids as infinite beings doesn't mean that you believe everything they do is wonderful, saintly and oriented for greatness.
One of the greatest lies of parenthood is that all of a sudden, at some point in their late teens, children finally become beings unto themselves. This is usually around sixteen or eighteen, depending on the country you live in. But the truth is, there is no magic day when children become full beings. They are full beings even before their bodies are conceived. They are full-on infinite beings throughout their entire lives. If parents would acknowledge that, perhaps we could create a change in the way parenting is done here on Planet Earth."
I can't wait to walk through each of these 10 keys with you. Next week, I will share some of the processes and homeplay that came from that first class. Take good care.
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