July 22nd, 2011 7:30am - Posted By: Anne Maxwell, LCSW, RPT-S
How often have we felt disrespected as the child we were talking to turned tail and stomped off? How about this thought? Perhaps he was regulating himself, with the left, right, left, right movement. Stomping off may seem disrespectful, but it does promote bilateral stimulation. Instead of saying: "Don't you walk away like that when I am talking to you," could we say instead: "I'm glad you are stomping. Stomp as hard as you want. Stomping is good. I love you. When you feel better, do you want to come and sit next to me?" Of course, this presupposes that the adult is in a state of emotional regulation! In all likelihood, after becoming regulated again, he will no longer be disrespectful.
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